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Riddle me this...
Jan. 31st, 2013 02:50 pmI read Single Dad Laughing often.
Recently the author of this blog came out as "other than straight", and has been blogging this journey and the weird, wonderful, and hateful reactions he has received after coming out.
Something that he is running up against is a percentage of ladies who react negatively when he reveals the fact that he is attracted to both men and women. Many ladies are not interested in dating a man who is also attracted to other men.
I am puzzled by this response, I must admit. To be fair, my parents tried very hard to raise me to believe that we are all equal, all a "Family under one sky", and that even though people are raised differently, look differently, think differently, and do different things with their lives, we're all human beings. I've spoken to people who had a "revelation" and suddenly understood for the first time that being gay wasn't wrong. (Sometimes the musical "Rent" was part of that experience.)
And once again, I'm puzzled. To me, that's like someone discovering that if you bend your knees just right and straighten them quickly, you will jump into the air.
I have dated men who were something "other than straight" in my life. I have been friends with people who were deeply closeted, and I was there when they started to decide how they were going to tiptoe "Out". There are lots of reasons why I would choose not to date someone or would choose to quit seeing someone, but being bi would not be one of them. Being a liar, yes. Being a hypocrite, probably. Being mean for no reason, absolutely. But not being Bi.
So I wanted to put it out there and see what kind of response I get. I was going to ask for ladies' opinion, but I'm opening this to everyone:
All other things being equal, would you date someone who was bisexual?
What if you were in a long term relationship with someone and they confessed to you that they were bisexual after years of being together?
By that same token, if you knew someone who was dating someone who was bisexual, would it bother you? Would you treat your friend the same as anyone else or would you try to influence your friend to end the relationship?
And finally, is bisexuality in and of itself a turn-on for you?
The post is public, but the comments are locked down. This is for my information only and I will not share anything that in a comment unless you indicate otherwise.
Take a moment and be honest with yourself, then be honest with me.
Recently the author of this blog came out as "other than straight", and has been blogging this journey and the weird, wonderful, and hateful reactions he has received after coming out.
Something that he is running up against is a percentage of ladies who react negatively when he reveals the fact that he is attracted to both men and women. Many ladies are not interested in dating a man who is also attracted to other men.
I am puzzled by this response, I must admit. To be fair, my parents tried very hard to raise me to believe that we are all equal, all a "Family under one sky", and that even though people are raised differently, look differently, think differently, and do different things with their lives, we're all human beings. I've spoken to people who had a "revelation" and suddenly understood for the first time that being gay wasn't wrong. (Sometimes the musical "Rent" was part of that experience.)
And once again, I'm puzzled. To me, that's like someone discovering that if you bend your knees just right and straighten them quickly, you will jump into the air.
I have dated men who were something "other than straight" in my life. I have been friends with people who were deeply closeted, and I was there when they started to decide how they were going to tiptoe "Out". There are lots of reasons why I would choose not to date someone or would choose to quit seeing someone, but being bi would not be one of them. Being a liar, yes. Being a hypocrite, probably. Being mean for no reason, absolutely. But not being Bi.
So I wanted to put it out there and see what kind of response I get. I was going to ask for ladies' opinion, but I'm opening this to everyone:
All other things being equal, would you date someone who was bisexual?
What if you were in a long term relationship with someone and they confessed to you that they were bisexual after years of being together?
By that same token, if you knew someone who was dating someone who was bisexual, would it bother you? Would you treat your friend the same as anyone else or would you try to influence your friend to end the relationship?
And finally, is bisexuality in and of itself a turn-on for you?
The post is public, but the comments are locked down. This is for my information only and I will not share anything that in a comment unless you indicate otherwise.
Take a moment and be honest with yourself, then be honest with me.
