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I considered several game plans for this evening, and the one that seems to have stuck is as follows:
Dr. Magic, a friend of mine, was planning to stay home alone tonight. He lives around the corner, less than 10 minutes from my house, has a hot tub and a great stereo system, plus a full wine cellar. He was invited to a few events but showed no interest in them. (For good reasons, mostly.)
I haven't been to his house yet, though. Why not?
I think I have been waiting for an invitation. Until I have been somewhere a few times and see that the host or homeowner really means it when he/she says, "Come over any time, don't bother to call first", I am leery of imposing myself on them. I'm not a timid person, but I have overstayed my welcome before.
Here's the thing about Dr. Magic. Not too long ago, he "took his best friend to the hospital to find out what was wrong, and never got to bring her home again."
His beloved wife, his comforter, soul mate and partner died unexpectedly, and in his arms. He's still grieving for her, in strange and sometimes subtle ways. He's trying to move on with his life, he's making social calls and trying to make himself visible. He's the one who put together the "Crystal Spiral" event, and I think he was hoping that throwing himself into that kind of event might soothe his aching loneliness.
I have thought, on more than one occasion, that I might get together with him and exploit our complimentary resources. He's got a great house with everything one needs to throw great parties, and I know how to throw such events successfully. He needs to be around people more often, knows this, and still ends up sitting home alone in his great house.
So, tonight we threw together an impromptu gathering at his place. I'm going to hop in the shower and get dressed so we can go there. I believe that it will end up being a nice intimate gathering of approximately 6-8 adults. Which is fine with me.
But perhaps we can start doing for Dr. Magic what the BradParties did for Brad; rebuild social capital and provide somewhere for strange and wonderful things to occur every 6-8 weeks or so.
I have no desire to compete with the Celestial house on this. If I lived remotely closer to it, I would be going to the Celestial house's annual NYE party. However, the idea of driving for 45 minutes to ANYWHERE on this night strikes me as foolishness.
And there will be plenty of wonderful people going to the Celestial NYE party. I think Dr. Magic would appreciate some wonderful people going to his "party," too.
Now, I'm off to get wet and naked.
La la la la...
Dr. Magic, a friend of mine, was planning to stay home alone tonight. He lives around the corner, less than 10 minutes from my house, has a hot tub and a great stereo system, plus a full wine cellar. He was invited to a few events but showed no interest in them. (For good reasons, mostly.)
I haven't been to his house yet, though. Why not?
I think I have been waiting for an invitation. Until I have been somewhere a few times and see that the host or homeowner really means it when he/she says, "Come over any time, don't bother to call first", I am leery of imposing myself on them. I'm not a timid person, but I have overstayed my welcome before.
Here's the thing about Dr. Magic. Not too long ago, he "took his best friend to the hospital to find out what was wrong, and never got to bring her home again."
His beloved wife, his comforter, soul mate and partner died unexpectedly, and in his arms. He's still grieving for her, in strange and sometimes subtle ways. He's trying to move on with his life, he's making social calls and trying to make himself visible. He's the one who put together the "Crystal Spiral" event, and I think he was hoping that throwing himself into that kind of event might soothe his aching loneliness.
I have thought, on more than one occasion, that I might get together with him and exploit our complimentary resources. He's got a great house with everything one needs to throw great parties, and I know how to throw such events successfully. He needs to be around people more often, knows this, and still ends up sitting home alone in his great house.
So, tonight we threw together an impromptu gathering at his place. I'm going to hop in the shower and get dressed so we can go there. I believe that it will end up being a nice intimate gathering of approximately 6-8 adults. Which is fine with me.
But perhaps we can start doing for Dr. Magic what the BradParties did for Brad; rebuild social capital and provide somewhere for strange and wonderful things to occur every 6-8 weeks or so.
I have no desire to compete with the Celestial house on this. If I lived remotely closer to it, I would be going to the Celestial house's annual NYE party. However, the idea of driving for 45 minutes to ANYWHERE on this night strikes me as foolishness.
And there will be plenty of wonderful people going to the Celestial NYE party. I think Dr. Magic would appreciate some wonderful people going to his "party," too.
Now, I'm off to get wet and naked.
La la la la...
